First, let me start by saying this... I was young once (longer ago than I wish to say).... and unfortunately I probably was guilty of the very thing I'm writing about. So... don't hear judgement in my voice. Hear my "I wish I knew then what I know now" voice. i would have tried harder to help the boys around me have pure thoughts rather than worrying about being noticed.
Luckily, some things we don't have to learn on our own, we can learn from those who have walked before us... and change the way we are going now.
I think maybe being in Zambia has RE-SENSITIZED me to many things about American Culture. Also, as I have become a mother to 4 boys... I'm also acutely aware of things... especially girls.
Girls, if you are claiming the name of Jesus. Walk it. Walk it in your clothes. Walk it in your words. Walk it in your private conversations and chats. Walk it in what you post on Facebook. Walk it on your iPod. Walk it on the photos you take. Just walk it out.
If you aren't a boy, aren't married to a boy, or a mother of a boy... You do not fully understand the power you have over them. I understand the boost you get when boys notice you. But if you believe in Jesus... you must fully understand that there is only 1 pursuer in life that makes us whole...
You are beautiful, and so is modesty. I'm not just talking about clothes... but it's a good place to start. I'm not saying throw on the long jean skirt with keds and a turtle neck. You can be stylish and cute... and still honor yourself and God. I think you know where the line is. Modesty comes in your words and photos, too. We know what is flirtatious. We know what takes a boys mind "there." So, please, help them to think in a right way. The things you do might make them think about you in a wrong way for a moment... but if you walk with them in a modest and right way... they will ALWAYS remember you for that. It is a battle for them that YOU should care about. Because whether you like it or not, you are involved.
Moms... modesty has to be taught and modeled by you. It isn't something this culture teaches or values. Saying "no" is good for our kids sometimes. Saying, "yeah, I need to check your iPod, Facebook, messages, photos"... that's ok. They need guidance to find "right"... it's not in our nature. Just as much as you wouldn't want my boy going up and grabbing your daughter inappropriately, I don't want your daughter flaunting her cute, overexposed body flashing in my boys eyes.
And one more thing... I've learned that boys truly find purity a complete attraction. Many don't want a girl who has tinkered around with others. So much so, I've seen them actually fret about if their future wife will make good choices RIGHT NOW. And my boys aren't geeks. Their handsome, athletic, smart, funny, learning to follow-Jesus kind of boys. So girls... you know right... follow it. There's nothing more beautiful than the glow of Jesus on you... nothing!